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Apr 8

don’t wish it away

Posted by madameblogalot at 9:50 pm in home, kids & family, life

I was pleased yesterday evening to find that some friends of ours stopped by while out taking a walk as a family. They have two precious boys. The five year old even rode his bike all the way to my house, nearly a mile! We got the chance to visit for a few minutes (never long enough) and of course we always talk about our kids.

I had a couple of things in the oven and my kids took them out while I chatted. My friend mentioned how nice it is when the kids are big. I said yes, but it was nice when they were five too. I told her not to “wish it away” like I kind of did. I remember at times wondering if such and such a stage would ever be over. And it is. All too soon.

There are some real advantages to having big kids. It is nice in some ways. But I still spend days agonizing over them, crying myself to sleep, and wondering if this stage will ever be over. And I know all too soon it will.

I guess that could be one regret I have. Wishing for something other than what I have at the moment. Maybe that is just a lesson we learn after having lived through it. I thought the preschool years were never ending, then the early elementary years. But I have to say after that, my son’s junior high years flew by. And now he is half way done with high school. I am trying to be very careful not to waste time and energy wishing away these days. There are not many more left with him at home.

I do wish for some of the “good old days” when they were little. We had lots of fun then. We still have fun but it is very different now. And maybe one day I’ll be having fun with their kids. Then I’ll get to spoil them and send them home!

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Montucky wrote:
April 9th, 2009 at 7:05 am

How well I remember all of those stages. The very toughest for me though was when they became adults and started living in other parts of the country. That can be a heart breaker!
Holly wrote:
April 9th, 2009 at 11:35 am

Ooh what a wise mama you are–thanks for sharing your perspective. Time and stages do end up zooming by, even when they seems to crawl. I needed the reminder to savor, instead of wishing and wondering what comes next.
madameblogalot wrote:
April 9th, 2009 at 7:07 pm

I think that will be tough for me too montucky. and my mom often reminds me that her daughter (my sister) lives on the other side of the world!

your a good mama too holly! yes, savor these precious moments. even though it seems that whining and tantrums will never end…they do and you may just be wishing for a few of those to deal with by the next stage!
Beth wrote:
April 9th, 2009 at 7:20 pm

It does go by fast…at least in retrospect. I remember feeling time drag during the difficult stages and then speed up like crazy when I’d so much as blink.

These days, I’m fully aware of how lucky I am. Our three all bought houses here in town, my grown kids are still very much present in my life, I see my grandkids almost every day, and I’m doing all that I can to savor every moment and not wish any of it away. I know that when I blink, those little grandbabies will be all grown up and I don’t want to miss a thing.
madameblogalot wrote:
April 9th, 2009 at 8:58 pm

yes, I am just trying not to blink too much these days!! thanks for the voice of experience!

and what a surprising phone call I got today!!
Shelly wrote:
April 9th, 2009 at 11:20 pm

That’s so true about everything. Students wanting to be done with studies, and then looking back saying, “Those were the days,” once they are done. What is it that always makes it so easy for us to forget how good we’ve got it in the here and now?
madameblogalot wrote:
April 13th, 2009 at 2:19 pm

I don’t know! we do have a tendency toward this don’t we?!
Jerseygirl89 wrote:
April 13th, 2009 at 6:30 pm

I’ve been working really hard to stop doing this lately. Thanks for the reminder.
madameblogalot wrote:
April 14th, 2009 at 6:41 am

I know it’s hard Jerseygirl! especially w/ toddlers/preschoolers and now a new baby! wondering if you will ever get through some phase….and then suddenly you’ll find yourself wishing you could go back to that time!! hang in there! and treasure it all up in your heart!!